Raising this little boy isn't easy! It's far from easy! There are good day and bad days! But one thing I find I need to do is stay consistent! A lot of parents over look structure in their childrens life. They give them their technology to confine their minds, so they can look the other way! I know that was such a blunt thing to say! Right!?, but who we fooling? I see it so much, and I to was guilty of this for to long! I seemed to notice that my son was on the verge of depression. The look in his eyes was not happiness to have this device. I stepped back and was in complete dispare. How did I let this happen? I blamed myself completely because I allowed myself to be an inconsistent mother to my child. No more though! So if anyone out there sees their child in a funk, this one is for you. Shared advice never hurt no one! So here is some do and don'ts.
On school nights I do not let him stay up all night with a 9pm bed time no more! Bed time is at 7:30pm, so he can be well rested for school the next day! I also do this so I don't have to drag him out of bed. I shouldn't have to shake up the bed to wake him up. I want my son to wake up nicely in hopes it leads him to have a great day.
Emmanuel wakes up for school everyday at 6am gets himself ready for school. From there he has himself a light and balanced breakfast before he goes to catch the bus or I take him. I never let him leave me without a " I love you and have a good day!" Honestly it's so sweet to hear him tell me it back!
When he gets home from school I ask him how his day was today. He will proceed to tell me he either had a good day, bad day, or terrible day, or super fun day. No matter how his day went I ask why it was this way and what did he learn. School is tough and long. Kind of like working is for us adults.
Sometimes you just need to relax. So when he comes home we relax for an hour or so. I give him free time to watch a movie, play outside, or be on his phone. I try to stay consistent at this part as this is the tricky part. When enough is enough.
I will give him his hour and it's time for chores. Yes chores! How will this help with depression in a child you ask? There are many benefits to it! He gets some at home exercise from taking the trash to learning how to be tidy and not messy. Messiness plays a huge role in kids with depression as it would anyone.
Chores is also a time for praise, and who wouldn't Want to be told thank you for all your help you're doing such a great job. Chores is also time of earning you can earn money, points to go to special places during the weekend, or certain toys. What it does is give your child a form of control. Your child can control what he or she gets to do or have after chores by saving up money or saving up points.
After chores its homework time. In this house we do homework at the kitchen table. We do homework at the kitchen table to make it accessible for my son to reach one of his parents without distraction if he needs help.
my sons homework is never too hard to help him with. He's in the third grade. The most homework that my son comes home with is math and reading. Math is what we do at the kitchen table. There's always about six questions. I allow him to complete all of them by himself so I can see where he's at myself. Once he is done me and his dad, mostly his dad uses this time to have one on one time with our son. He will go over the questions and help him work through them.
Robert works all day. He works about 15 hour days. When he comes home from work he always says good morning to his children, no matter what time it is he says good morning. He says he says good morning because he doesn't get to tell them in the morning. Robert leaves to work around 4:30 or five in the morning. So by him coming home from a very long day at work he still makes time for his son. He gets About an hour with him a day. At this moment our son is now getting praise from both of his parents a day.
By the time he's done with chores and all done with homework it's dinner time. Dinner time usually takes place around five or 530. After dinner it's time for him to take a shower. Emmanuel picks out his clothes for school that night and lays them out for the next morning. He does this to make his mornings easier. He does this so he is ready.
Once he is done showering it is time for bed. Are usually have him lay down around 7:15 PM and I like him to be asleep by 7:30 PM. If he's having a hard time going to sleep I will give him a melatonin vitamin to help him rest. At this time I will read his books to him. When I am done reading to him I always tell him good night and that I love him.
since doing this routine with my son I have noticed a change in his body language. He is more happy to be consistent with his daily life. He is also becoming more active and showing more interest in activities such as sports and crafts. He is wanting to get into football next season and has took up a skill of drawing. He is super good at it for not having drawing lessons. He is also creating videos on his YouTube page. I will share his YouTube like for other parents to see and show their own kids! That creativity has no bounds.
don't get me wrong this is only a Monday through Friday schedule. I have a whole other schedule for the weekend because our days are longer and more time as a family. But I will get to that later.